One Hundred Things I Want to
Share Before He’s a Groom
1. Always choose love. Above all things. I Corinthians 13
2. Give her all your heart. Not only a part of it.
3. Laugh together. For
the rest of your lives.
4. Forgive. “A happy marriage
is the union of two good forgivers.” ` Ruth Bell Graham
5. And forget. Once it’s been
forgiven, put it behind you and never pick it back up again.
6. Cling to each other in the hard
times. Don’t let
trials pull you apart, but bring you closer together instead.
7. Don’t let fear hold you back. Take risks and step out
together.
8. Kiss her on the lips. Every day. For a long time.
9. Don’t try to change her. She’s a good woman just as she
is. She might have room to grow – but then again, so do you. Leave that work to
the Holy Spirit.
10. Pray for her. Make it your daily ministry to
lift her up before your Heavenly Father. He needs a praying wife.
11. Hold hands. When you’re walking together,
when you’re driving together, and sometimes simply grab her hand for no reason.
12. Confide in her. Share with her your thoughts,
your dreams, your fears, and your hopes. Never keep anything from each other.
13. Don’t be surprised when faced with a trial. It’s not something to tip-toe around, but
something to walk through. So walk through it together.
14. Be quick to admit when wrong. Don’t waste a minute holding on to your pride.
15. Look for little ways to delight her. Be mindful of those small preferences of her.
16. Greet her with a loving smile. Who wouldn’t love
coming home to that every night?
17. Allow her to make mistakes. Don’t hold it
against her. “Everyone makes mistakes” applies to wives too.
18. Protect your marriage. Set up safeguards
together to keep things and people from harming what you’ve got.
19. Never leave off with the romance. It might not be
the foundation of your love, but it sure makes for good glue.
20. Be sweet to her. She’ll always be glad for a
little of that.
21. Care about your appearance. Not out of
vanity, but in making an effort to put forth your best.
22. Speak well of her to others. Never put her
down or make a slight.
23. Be trustworthy. “The heart of her husband doth
safely trust in her” (Prov.31:11).
24. Give grace. She’ll need you to extend her
grace from time to time. Don’t we all need that?
25. Seek to be servant-hearted. Take pleasure in
serving her. “By love serve one another” (Gal. 5:13).
26. Be filled with joy. “It is His joy
that remains in us that makes our joy full” ~ A.B. Simpson
27. Be wise. Let the wise
listen and add to their learning, Proverbs 1:5 (NIV)
28. And speak kindness. Be
ye kind one to another,
tenderhearted, Ephesians 4:32
29. Let the little things go. Don’t hang on to
small annoyances.
30. Work through the big things. Take the time to
talk those through.
31. Don’t go to bed angry. Ephesians 4:26
32. Be honest. It’s important to speak the
truth – in love – to her. Always.
33. Throw a little surprise in there. Every once in a while.
Just for fun.
34. Enjoy the woman she is. Don’t compare her
to anyone else.
35. Be strong for her. Be
strong and of a good
courage Joshua 1:9
36. Let her know when you’re feeling down. When you do she can help build you up.
37. Put your hope in the Lord. Psalm 71:5
38. Be willing to listen. Be quick to hear. .James 1:9
39. Make her love your priority. Even above your
children.
40. Give yourself room to grow. Love is not
perfect – it’s just loving.
41. Remember she’s not a guy. She won’t always
understand or relate, so don’t have unreasonable expectations.
42. But be sure she’s your best-friend. Invest in your friendship.
43. Fall asleep in her arms. Whenever
possible.
44. Show her respect. Especially in
front of your children.
45. Let her care for you. It’s her job. And
yours.
46. Set aside date nights. Whether at home
or going out.
47. Admire her. Make sure you’re her biggest
fan.
48. Stand by her. Your loyalty is invaluable.
49. Enjoy the passion. Keep the fire
burning. Like, say…Song of Solomon?
50. Decide in the beginning that you’re going to stick together until
the very end. ‘Til death do you part.”
51. Do her good. All the days of
your life.
52. Keep in mind that marriage can be hard work. But it’s so worth the effort.
53. Speak only those things that edify. That it “may give grace to the
hearer.” Ephesians 5:29
54. Sometimes the best thing you to do is not say
anything at all.
55. Show appreciation for the womanly things she does. For both the big and the small
things.
56. Be the leader of your home.
57. Make her dreams…your dreams. Treasure them like your own.
58. Look into each other’s eyes. Adoringly and each day.
59. Be extravagant in your love. Go big.
60. Work together. In the kitchen,
the garden, the garage, or the barn. It’s
always more fun with two.
61. Allow for her hormonal fluctuations. Be understanding and loving.
62. Speak her love language – what says love to her. And speak it fluently!
63. Don’t make accusations. Ask questions, but don’t begin with blame.
64. Start each day with a smile and a kiss. What better way to begin?
65. Share interests together. As much as possible.
66. Welcome her into your world. Don’t keep her at a distance.
67. Laugh at her jokes. Yes, even if you’ve heard them before.
68. Remember the one you fell in love with. Don’t let her get lost in
the daily-ness of life.
69. Abide in Christ. And then keep
abiding. John 15
70. Cast all your care upon Him. Because He cares for you. I Peter 5:7
71. Cook for her.
Without leaving a mess.
72. Communicate confidence in who she is and what she’s
about. So
powerful in a woman’s life.
73. Keep tenderness in your love. Don’t let hardness or sharpness creep in to
make it brittle.
74. Let her know what you need from her. It might not be as obvious as you think it is.
75. Differentiate what you need…from what you want.
76. Pray through problems. Don’t work it out on your own. Romans 8:26
77. Convince her that she’s the woman of your dreams. And she’ll become that woman.
78. Give thanks. Always. For all things. Ephesians 5:20
79. Go to the Word when things seem dark. God’s Word will be a lamp to your feet
and a light to your path. Psalm 119:105
80. Intertwine your lives wherever possible. Run errands, go for walks, curl up on the
couch. Just seek to be together.
81. Make the most of little moments. Don’t wait for sweeping moments – those are
mostly found in the movies.
82. Gratefully accept her gifts. Think of the effort she put forth.
83. Always remain lovers. Do the kinds of things that lovers do.
84. Judge her not. That you be not judged. Matthew 7:1
85. Celebrate your anniversary. Do something special together and
recognize the grand occasion that it is.
86. Don’t hang out with friends who put her – or their own wives
– down. So destructive.
87. Include her in the decision-making. She’s one half of this couple.
88. Give up your need to be right. It’s not as bad as it sounds.
89. Cheerfully help her out. You’re her “help-meet”, too, aren’t you?
90. The Lord can heal your hurts. Your wife cannot. So don’t resent her for
something she can’t do. Psalm 147:3
91. Write little love notes. Or send a text message, if you
must.
92. Embrace your differences. If you were both the same, how boring would
that be?
93. Express enthusiasm for her plans and ideas.
94. Timing can make all the difference in the world. Discuss difficult things when you’re both
rested – and fed.
95. Make her priorities your own. Bump them up to the top of your
list.
96. Lovingly bear with her. She’ll have her faults (as
will you). Ephesians 4:2
97. Fear the Lord. The fear of the Lord
is the beginning of knowledge Proverbs
1:7
98. Reach out and touch. A tender touch can do so much good – for you
both.
99. Marriage is like a long, slow walk together. More a marathon than a sprint. So just keep walking. Together.
100. Always choose love – again and again.
The greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:13
